Recommended Books

Top Picks by Riseup Society Staff

When Love Hurts: A Women’s Guide to Understanding Abuse in Relationships by Jill Cory and Karen McAndless-Davis

This book is essential reading for any woman wondering if she is being abused. It helps women recognize the signs of abuse in a relationship and the abusive strategies their partner uses to control and disempower them. Along with true stories of women experiencing abuse, the book offers exercises that allow readers to examine their own situation. It explores difficult questions and offers straightforward advice.

Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft

In this groundbreaking book, the author takes women inside the minds of abusive and controlling men to teach them how to free themselves from the chains of abuse. It covers early warning signs, ten abusive personality types, the abusive mentality, 17 myths about abuse, and sheds light on the abuser’s values and beliefs, as an explanation of abusive behaviour.

Dragonslippers: This is What an Abusive Relationship Looks Like by Rosalind B. Penfold

Dragonslippers presents an extraordinary “visual” testimony to the emotional and psychological depths to which it is possible to sink, and a reminder of the continued possibility of recovery. A genuine window into the usually closed world of domestic abuse and the claustrophobic lives of its victims.

Getting Free: You Can End Abuse and Take Back Your Life by Ginny NiCarthy

Getting Free is an in-depth, yet comprehensive book on how to leave an abusive relationship. The book is divided into 7 sections. Each section walks the reader through the process of leaving, while highlighting the dangers affiliated with the process. Throughout the reader will find exercises to complete which help them to assess their personal situation more clearly.

The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize it and How to Respond by Patricia Evans

This book brings to light the critical issue of verbal abuse. Victims of verbal abuse often suffer in silence, not knowing where to turn or what to do. This book offers readers the answers they need to recognize abuse when it happens, to respond to abusers safely and appropriately, and most important, lead happier, healthier lives.

In Sheep’s Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People by George K., Jr. Simon

The author uses vignettes which highlight and document actual occurrences and circumstances people often experience. They illustrate and expose the true nature and tactics the most manipulative characters use to pull the wool over the eyes of others, and outline powerful, practical ways to deal more effectively with manipulative people.

Love is a Choice: The Definite Book of Letting Go of Unhealthy Relationships by Robert HemfeltFrank Minirth and Paul Meier

God wants us to have healthy relationships with a balance between being dependent and independent. However, the “hunger for acceptance and love” we all carry traps many in unhealthy co-dependent relationships. The authors describe the causes of co-dependency, and walk their readers through ten stages to recovery from co-dependency.

Boundaries: When to Say YES When to Say NO To Take Control of Your Life by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend

This book presents a biblical treatment of boundaries, identifies how boundaries are developed and how they become injured, shows Christian misconceptions of their function and purpose, targets areas in our lives that have boundary conflicts, and gives a program for developing and maintaining healthy, biblical limits.

Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them: When Loving Hurts and You Don’t Know Why by Susan Forward, Ph.D.

Profiling the men who emotionally abuse women and the women who are attracted to them, this book is filled with vivid case histories and superb self-help guidelines for any woman who wants to increase her self-respect, courage, and confidence.

But He’ll Change: End the Thinking That Keeps You in an Abusive Relationship by Joanne V. Hunter

In this compassionate book the author offers information and guidance to help women who are coping with abuse to face head on the lies or excuses that keep them in an abusive relationship.  Hunter offers counter messages designed to help women build strength and hope, and a way for them to regain their personal power and break free from abusive relationships.

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